Hello my lovely friends! I hope you’re having a fantastic day! Today, I would like to have an extensive discussion with you about a book that is very special to me. Pour yourself a cup of your favorite tea (jasmine green tea for me) and have a seat.
In the spring of 2015, I came across this wonderful book entitled “Success Principles” by Jack Canfield. Was it fate or a pure coincidence? Who knows but I was at a point in my life when I was badly in need for answers to grow as a human being, so I’d say it was fate. “Success Principles” has been a true revelation for me and radically life-changing too. Although I highly recommend that you read the whole book (about 60 principles in total), I’d like to share with you the ten principles that made me see life from a different perspective and that I continue to apply today. Or should I say try to apply 🙂
1. The law of attraction
The law of attraction could be summarized by “See what you want & get what you see”. Visualizing and imagining very clearly what you want in your life is very powerful. As your brain doesn’t make the difference between visualizing something and actually doing it, a tension emerges in your subconscious that your brain will solve by turning your goal into reality. The more passionate and energetic you are, the more incredible will be the results. An area of my life where I was able to manifest my goals and dreams the most is travel. I remember that I was picturing myself speaking foreign languages and exploring new countries all the time. I also recall how empowered and motivated I was when thinking what an exciting life I would have living in so many different countries. And here I am, a few years later, reviewing all the places I’ve been – 27 countries so far – and all the foreign languages I can speak – 4 in total. As you might expect, I intend to apply the law of attraction in every area of my life as much as I can and you’ll probably want to test it too.
2. No more complaints
I’m from France, so I know what it is to complain. We do that a LOT! The weather is too hot, the food is too cold, the economy is bad and on, and on, and on. While I thought it was written in our DNA, it’s not. Sigh of relief. Actually, complaining takes us nowhere. All it does is making us really unpleasant to spend time with. What we should do (and there will be a lot of “should” in this blog post, I’m not saying that I mastered all the principles, I just want to share my thoughts) is replace complaining by taking actions and making requests. Because that’s the only way to move forward!
3. No one owes you anything
This is a harsh reality and a hard one to swallow. Nothing lasts forever, nothing can be taken for granted. Nothing. Not your friendships, not your relationships, not your knowledges, especially not your health. Keeping that in mind will hopefully give you the extra boost to live by the following principle “always do your best”.
4. What other think about you is none of your business
“Most of the time, nobody’s thinking about you at all. They are too busy worrying about their own lives and if they are thinking about you at all, they are wondering what you are thinking about them”. This statement came as a shock to me because I very often caught myself analyzing for hours what I had just said or written or done. Looking back, I’ve wasted a lot of time being concerned for things that other did not even noticed. Unless you’re doing something terribly wrong or someone is giving you sincere advice (and feed-backs should always be welcomed), just live your life the way you want. It is indeed nobody’s business.
5. Write down your goals
This principle is a powerful one. At first, I found it a little bit ridiculous to have my list of crazy goals staring at me on my bedside table but after a while, I began seeing the results. Here is how it works: write down your goals on a piece of paper and make a public declaration of your goals (tell your friends, family or anybody that you trust). This way, you’re making an indirect commitment to attain them. Be as accurate as you can (write for instance “I want to find the job of my dreams by 31th January 2017 in XY company and I’ll earn $ XX’XXX…or more :-)”). Be careful “vague goals produce vague results. Be sure to write some big hairy goals that will require you to grow to achieve them. It’s a good thing to have some goals that make you a little bit uncomfortable. The ultimate goal is to become a master at life”. The next step to make your goals come true is to “activate the creative powers of your subconscious mind by reviewing your list several times a day”. Quite a mouthful, I know! I’ve decided to review my goals in the morning and in the evening after my meditation routine (LINK) and I make sure to renew my goals every now and then. My personal goals lately were to live more in the present, to be more aware of how I manage my time and to keep a positive mine. My next goals are creating a successful blog (thanks for reading by the way!), visiting Costa Rica and Hawai and reading a book a week. What are yours?
6. Take responsibility
We often blame our education, our parents, the system, or whatever it may be to justify the bad things that happened to us. Some of us are still blaming their parents for the insecure environment they provided us and how bad it impacts their ability to build healthy relationships now. Some other blame the stock exchange prices to go up or down and accuse them to be the cause of their financial troubles. Or other are absolutely mad at society, accusing everybody to be ruthless and self-centered. And it’s ok to have those feelings. But what I realized is this: it’s true, some bad things happened to you and me. Maybe we had a terrible childhood, maybe we lost all our savings because of a crisis, and maybe some people insulted us in the street. It is important to acknowledge those facts. But more important is our response to adversity and our ability to move on. And there is the rub. We get stuck in the negativity, we keep repeating ourselves how bad people or society treat us. The answer lies in accepting what happened without judging and building on it. Our parents did the best they could with what they had (yes, it is difficult sometimes to swallow). Now you have two choices: feel sorry for yourself or act responsively. Taking responsibility means accepting the reality, licking one’s wounds and then deciding what actions are to be taken to improve the situation. It’s one of the hardest things to go through – and there is no shame to ask for help if you need it – but it is worth every effort.
7. Fake it till you make it
“Act as if: as if you are already where you want to be. This means thinking like, dressing like, acting like and feeling like the person who has already achieved your goal. It sends powerful commands to your subconscious mind to find creative ways to achieve your goals”. This quote really stood out for me and I realized that the “faking” is actually the training before getting the leading part. The universe rewards action! “Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle”.
8. Feel the fear and do it anyway
This particular principle has been my mantra in 2016 when I was waiting for the permanent residence approval before moving to Canada. What if I didn’t get it? And what if I did? Where would I go, would I find a job easily, and I’ll stop here because the list of questions I had is endless. There is something beautiful that awaits you on the other side of fear and this something is self-confidence and a sense of accomplishment. It is human nature to retreat from fear, but when you consciously choose to challenge it and face it, that’s when the magic happens. Ask yourself: “Do you want to be safe and good, or do you want to take a chance and be great”? Experience your fear 100% and break down the challenge into small, manageable tasks.
9. Never, never, never give up!
Persistence and consistency are two common qualities shared by high achievers. They just don’t take no for an answer. I believe that whatever you’re trying to achieve, it’s just a numbers game. You don’t know how many applications you will have to send before getting the job of your dreams, you don’t know how many blind dates you’ll have to go to before meeting the right person and you don’t know how many doors you’re going to have to knock to raise your much needed funds for the business you’re starting. Cultivating patience and a positive attitude toward your goals is key here. As Jack would say “The longer you hang in there, the greater chance that something will happen in your favor. No matter how hard it seems, the longer you persist, the more likely your success. Never give up on your hopes and dreams.”
10. Do more of what you love and less of what you don’t!!!
What makes you come alive? What makes you want to get up in the morning? What are you passionate about? A lot of us, me included, keep on doing things by force of habit. And it is a pity because we don’t get to experience that feeling of fulfilment that comes when we do the things we love. So take time to reconnect with yourself and listen to your dreams. Don’t get me wrong: I’m not implying here that you should stop paying your bills, cleaning your house or helping your children doing their homework! It’s borring but it has to be done. Rather, what I’m talking about is your dream of taking pole dance classes or taking a class of molecular cuisine. Whatever it is that you like, take action!
From Jack Canfield I also read “Chicken Soup for the soul”. The real-life stories gathered in this book are mind-blowing and gave me a giant kick of positive energy. You made it through this very long blog post and I want to say “well done”! But I’m curious so I need to ask: what is the book that changed your life and how so?